Friday, August 12, 2005

Unwanted pregancy

Just read about a friend who is undergoing some shitty situation now.
Please visit this site and offer some support if u could. For those from University of Michigan, you might have a clue who that asshole is.

http://tristefemme.blogspot.com/

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

The guy was a scout in DHS.

nilsinelabore

Anonymous said...

We ought to publish this guy's name in public to do some public shaming too in the same way that Mr Philip Yeo shames his bond-breakers.

If breaking bond suggests a fundamental character flaw, I don't see how different this is from bond-breaking!

vandice said...

nilsinelabore: There was no need for this teaser.

anony: This is a private matter between two consenting adults, not some guy who broke bond and deprived another of a scholarship. Please, it doesn't do the unborn child any good to villify the father.

Anonymous said...

... a father who has already given up on his unborn child. His child NEEDS to villify him, to know the kind of bastard his father is.

Yee-Wei Chai said...

vandice: it used to be a private matter. but the girl's decision to blog about it has definitely placed this matter in the non-private category. In a way, this guy did break a bond, the trust which was placed in him by the girl. Just as the government who wouldn't know if a scholar will break the bond the minute they sign him up, the girl didn't know if he would turn out to be as asshole after the pregnancy. The government places the name of a scholar who breaks bond in the newspaper (which i think is extremely juvenile thing to do). This girl merely chose to do something similar without announcing the name.

It doesn't do the unborn baby any good to vilify the father. But I don't see why leaving the mother before the kid is born does both the mother and the kid any good either.

vandice said...

What I meant was it doesn't do any good to name any of the parties involved in public. The same quandry happens everyday to many girls; some aren't married, some are married but the father's not the husband, some are not even 16. But these shouldn't come up as blog fodder. How would it feel to you if it were someone close to you? Would you advocate naming the father as well just for that momentary satisfaction? It is they who have to live with it lah.

I have taken down my post since TF has done so. Please spare a thought for the families and babies concerned and consider pulling yours as well, esp. some of the comments left behind.

Yee-Wei Chai said...

vandice: I don't disagree that naming anyone does not do anyone good. But I will allow the public who reads these comments understand that here - if they agree. However, if I should remove your comments, it would not allow people do do so. I do not believe in censorship and would rather leave the decision in the hands of the people reading it. Information (whether it be right or wrong), is key to making people wiser and we should place the trust in the public to do so. You're a wise man with very wise opnions really, and I applud your thoughts. Please do not stop voicing your thoughts. :) Cheers

AG said...

Seriously, I think the guy has a right to his privacy. Him being a jerk (or not) has nothing to do with it. Besides, why are you people already taking sides without listening to both parties?

It takes two hands to clap, she should have insisted that he wore a condom and not give in to her demands. So it's not totally the guy's fault.

AG said...

*his demands* Sorry, typo.

Yee-Wei Chai said...

yeah ... The guy actually responded. I posted it and u guys should read his side of the story too. :)

http://singaporecritic.blogspot.com/2005/08/father-of-child-responded-case-close.html

jay paul said...

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